{"id":12694,"date":"2026-03-04T13:35:51","date_gmt":"2026-03-04T00:35:51","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/accordingtokirsty.com\/?p=12694"},"modified":"2026-03-04T13:35:51","modified_gmt":"2026-03-04T00:35:51","slug":"mother-is-that-you","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/accordingtokirsty.com\/index.php\/2026\/03\/04\/mother-is-that-you\/","title":{"rendered":"Mother, is that you?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>It\u2019ll be ten years this month since my mother died suddenly.<!--more--><\/p>\n<p>My daughter and I had just come home from visiting a family whose son had recently died in a tragic accident, so when my brother rang me to give me the news I struggled to take it in. I remember crying out \u201cNo!\u201d like I just couldn\u2019t accept that it was true. He\u2019s recently sent me several boxes of her stuff to store, and I\u2019ve been very slowly going through it.<\/p>\n<p>I had completely forgotten that she belonged to both the orchid society and the cactus and succulent club. I hope I\u2019ve mentioned before what an incredible woman my mother was, and I\u2019d be very proud to be turning into her as I get older, although preferably without the asthma and hypertension. I have indeed recently developed an interest in potted plants, and succulents in particular. This isn\u2019t only because they are the only plants I can reliably keep alive, but it\u2019s related. They are so determined to live, unlike something like a maidenhair fern that will go into a death spiral if you just look at it the wrong way.<br \/>\nTake this fellow as an example:<\/p>\n<p><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" data-attachment-id=\"12696\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/accordingtokirsty.com\/index.php\/2026\/03\/04\/mother-is-that-you\/img_5577\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/accordingtokirsty.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/IMG_5577-scaled.jpeg?fit=1200%2C1600&amp;ssl=1\" data-orig-size=\"1200,1600\" data-comments-opened=\"1\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;1.78&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;iPhone 17 Pro&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;1772394718&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;6.7649998656528&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;160&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0.02&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;1&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"IMG_5577\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/accordingtokirsty.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/IMG_5577-scaled.jpeg?fit=525%2C700&amp;ssl=1\" class=\"aligncenter size-medium wp-image-12696\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/accordingtokirsty.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/IMG_5577-225x300.jpeg?resize=225%2C300&#038;ssl=1\" alt=\"\" width=\"225\" height=\"300\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/accordingtokirsty.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/IMG_5577-scaled.jpeg?resize=225%2C300&amp;ssl=1 225w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/accordingtokirsty.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/IMG_5577-scaled.jpeg?resize=768%2C1024&amp;ssl=1 768w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/accordingtokirsty.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/IMG_5577-scaled.jpeg?resize=1152%2C1536&amp;ssl=1 1152w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/accordingtokirsty.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/IMG_5577-scaled.jpeg?resize=1536%2C2048&amp;ssl=1 1536w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/accordingtokirsty.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/IMG_5577-scaled.jpeg?w=1200&amp;ssl=1 1200w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/accordingtokirsty.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/IMG_5577-scaled.jpeg?w=1050&amp;ssl=1 1050w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 225px) 100vw, 225px\" \/>I noticed some weeks ago that it had dropped a random leaf on the windowsill, and on closer inspection, the leaf had some little wiry bits coming out the bottom. On a hunch, I put it in a pot and hey presto!<br \/>\n<img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" data-attachment-id=\"12701\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/accordingtokirsty.com\/index.php\/2026\/03\/04\/mother-is-that-you\/img_5426\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/accordingtokirsty.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/IMG_5426-scaled.jpeg?fit=1200%2C1600&amp;ssl=1\" data-orig-size=\"1200,1600\" data-comments-opened=\"1\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;2.2&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;iPhone 17 Pro&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;1770666102&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;2.2200000286119&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;320&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0.016129032258065&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;1&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"IMG_5426\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/accordingtokirsty.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/IMG_5426-scaled.jpeg?fit=525%2C700&amp;ssl=1\" class=\"aligncenter size-medium wp-image-12701\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/accordingtokirsty.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/IMG_5426-225x300.jpeg?resize=225%2C300&#038;ssl=1\" alt=\"\" width=\"225\" height=\"300\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/accordingtokirsty.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/IMG_5426-scaled.jpeg?resize=225%2C300&amp;ssl=1 225w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/accordingtokirsty.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/IMG_5426-scaled.jpeg?resize=768%2C1024&amp;ssl=1 768w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/accordingtokirsty.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/IMG_5426-scaled.jpeg?resize=1152%2C1536&amp;ssl=1 1152w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/accordingtokirsty.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/IMG_5426-scaled.jpeg?resize=1536%2C2048&amp;ssl=1 1536w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/accordingtokirsty.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/IMG_5426-scaled.jpeg?w=1200&amp;ssl=1 1200w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/accordingtokirsty.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/IMG_5426-scaled.jpeg?w=1050&amp;ssl=1 1050w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 225px) 100vw, 225px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Shortly afterwards, I noticed what looked like a tiny baby plant dangling from one of the original plant\u2019s branches.<\/p>\n<p><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" data-attachment-id=\"12699\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/accordingtokirsty.com\/index.php\/2026\/03\/04\/mother-is-that-you\/img_5427\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/accordingtokirsty.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/IMG_5427-scaled.jpeg?fit=1200%2C1600&amp;ssl=1\" data-orig-size=\"1200,1600\" data-comments-opened=\"1\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;2.2&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;iPhone 17 Pro&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;1770666110&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;2.2200000286119&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;320&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0.016129032258065&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;1&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"IMG_5427\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/accordingtokirsty.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/IMG_5427-scaled.jpeg?fit=525%2C700&amp;ssl=1\" class=\"aligncenter size-medium wp-image-12699\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/accordingtokirsty.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/IMG_5427-225x300.jpeg?resize=225%2C300&#038;ssl=1\" alt=\"\" width=\"225\" height=\"300\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/accordingtokirsty.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/IMG_5427-scaled.jpeg?resize=225%2C300&amp;ssl=1 225w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/accordingtokirsty.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/IMG_5427-scaled.jpeg?resize=768%2C1024&amp;ssl=1 768w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/accordingtokirsty.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/IMG_5427-scaled.jpeg?resize=1152%2C1536&amp;ssl=1 1152w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/accordingtokirsty.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/IMG_5427-scaled.jpeg?resize=1536%2C2048&amp;ssl=1 1536w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/accordingtokirsty.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/IMG_5427-scaled.jpeg?w=1200&amp;ssl=1 1200w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/accordingtokirsty.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/IMG_5427-scaled.jpeg?w=1050&amp;ssl=1 1050w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 225px) 100vw, 225px\" \/>So, I potted that one as well and it is also thriving.<\/p>\n<figure id=\"attachment_12702\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-12702\" style=\"width: 300px\" class=\"wp-caption aligncenter\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" data-attachment-id=\"12702\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/accordingtokirsty.com\/index.php\/2026\/03\/04\/mother-is-that-you\/img_5571\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/accordingtokirsty.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/IMG_5571-scaled-e1772579540519.jpeg?fit=1600%2C1200&amp;ssl=1\" data-orig-size=\"1600,1200\" data-comments-opened=\"1\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;1.78&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;iPhone 17 Pro&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;1772359643&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;6.7649998656528&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;64&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0.00092165898617512&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;1&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"IMG_5571\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"&lt;p&gt;The two new plants happy in the sunshine.&lt;\/p&gt;\n\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/accordingtokirsty.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/IMG_5571-scaled-e1772579540519.jpeg?fit=525%2C394&amp;ssl=1\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-12702\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/accordingtokirsty.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/IMG_5571-scaled-e1772579540519-300x225.jpeg?resize=300%2C225&#038;ssl=1\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"225\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/accordingtokirsty.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/IMG_5571-scaled-e1772579540519.jpeg?resize=300%2C225&amp;ssl=1 300w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/accordingtokirsty.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/IMG_5571-scaled-e1772579540519.jpeg?resize=1024%2C768&amp;ssl=1 1024w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/accordingtokirsty.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/IMG_5571-scaled-e1772579540519.jpeg?resize=768%2C576&amp;ssl=1 768w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/accordingtokirsty.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/IMG_5571-scaled-e1772579540519.jpeg?resize=1536%2C1152&amp;ssl=1 1536w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/accordingtokirsty.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/IMG_5571-scaled-e1772579540519.jpeg?resize=2048%2C1536&amp;ssl=1 2048w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/accordingtokirsty.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/IMG_5571-scaled-e1772579540519.jpeg?w=1600&amp;ssl=1 1600w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-12702\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">The two new plants happy in the sunshine.<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>So, that original plant has two babies from different methods, and that\u2019s without ever flowering. Of course, we get parthenogenesis in the animal kingdom too, as my poor rose bushes would attest, under their load of aphids. But it\u2019s still pretty neat. In fact, I\u2019m having a lot more luck with house plants than I used to. Am I finally growing into my inherited green thumb or is it more pragmatic plant choice? Maybe it\u2019s time to put myself to the test with my mother\u2019s other plant interest, orchids. I realise this isn\u2019t the most engrossing post I\u2019ve ever written, though. Do I need to promise <em>not <\/em>to keep you up to date with my adventures in the plant kingdom?<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>It\u2019ll be ten years this month since my mother died suddenly.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_feature_clip_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-12694","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/pa8Ukf-3iK","jetpack-related-posts":[{"id":7470,"url":"https:\/\/accordingtokirsty.com\/index.php\/2022\/01\/30\/rip-quarantini\/","url_meta":{"origin":12694,"position":0},"title":"RIP Quarantini","author":"Interloper11","date":"January 30, 2022","format":false,"excerpt":"Another of our fish has died. 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